Rejection Proof: 100 Days of Rejection, or How to Ask Anything of Anyone at Anytime
Jia Jiang takes his anecdotal circumstances and creates easy-to-follow recipes that anyone can cook up. He lists his perspectives and that of his rejectors and his acceptors.
Jia’s honesty and the veracity he gets from strangers is really what got my stove hot.There are a few lessons in this book that really struck me at my core which is why it is getting such a good rating.
He reminds us all that:
- Rejection is human, but what that means is that, “it states more about the rejector than the rejectee.”
- That rejection is an opinion and that there is no universal rejection or acceptance.
- Ask ‘Why’ before Good-bye: Sustain the conversation after the initial rejection. The magic word is ‘why,’ which can often reveal the underlying reason for the rejection and present the rejectee with the opportunity to overcome the issue.
- Other good things to keep in mind are to position yourself for a yes, how to say no, and finding the upside to any rejection. Learn from it, motivate yourself, do a self-worth check, build your character, self-improvement, targeting the right audience, finding empathy, finding value, and finding a mission.
- What Jia means by finding a mission is that sometimes “the most brutal rejections in life signal a new beginning and mission for the rejectee.
- By finding freedom in rejection we must learn that instead of approval-seeking, seeking approval from others or forces outside of ourselves, the most important thing is to approve and accept of ourselves.
and finally the big kicker,
DETACHMENT FROM RESULTS
“By focusing on controllable factors such as our effort and actions, and by detaching ourselves from uncontrollable outcomes such as acceptance and rejection, we can achieve greater success in the long run.”
I hope you’re able to read this book and ask for the raise you deserve, ask the girl or boy out that you’ve been wanting to know better, start planning to take that trip, start the website, take the risk because it isn’t about the outcome, it’s about the journey.
Mark Zuckerberg stated this very adequateley,
“The biggest risk is not taking any risk… In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.”